There is no bigger mistake than focusing on the others' so-called defects. First because judging the others is with no doubt the best way to make your ego stronger. Faultfinding towards the others gives you an impression of superiority.

On second hand, we are totally unable to judge the other. Our reasoning is arbitrarily conditioned by our social and cultural background. We do not think in terms of Universal Truths which can be accessed only when you reach a high level of wisdom. And this wisdom, source of tolerance, precisely takes us away from the temptation of making judgements. The wise man knows that man perceives the world through the prism of his mind and senses, as long as he does not reach conscience awakening.

Finally, and certainly the most important reason, our focusing on what we consider as faults in other people's attitudes takes us away from the essential : our own faults. We should be convinced that everything we find detestable in the others exists as well within ourselves.

Discovering this truth teaches us humility. This is the way we understand that our essential duty is to transform ourselves.

We progress focusing all our energy and our attention on improving ourselves and not sacrificing our time trying to find out and correct other's faults.

By this wise understanding one day we can reach conscience awakening.

Amedee